Appearance, Appearance, Appearance

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Aug 252022
 

The real estate world says the #1 rule for the desirability of a property is LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION. Well, if you haven’t already figured it out, much of what you can get in our superficial society is based on APPEARANCE, APPEARANCE, APPEARANCE.

This is NOT me pushing my appearance insecurities onto you. Nope. They have studies. If you look hot (male or female), your You Tube, Instagram, Tik Tok channel or what have you will grow at an exponential rate over those of us who don’t look like what society calls hot, attractive, gorgeous, sexy or any other word of your choice.  It’s just a fact of life.

Oh, there is one other way to succeed over us mere mortals and that’s to have something really unique, some shtick that you can use to market your goods or photos or whatever. It has to be REALLY different, though, as so much has been tried already. And if you are not what society calls HOT, you can bet your successful channel will be filled with haters who love to pick on people for their appearance. If you have something really new and different and this doesn’t bother you, go for it!!!!

Judged

But back to appearance. We are all judged on it. What’s the first thing someone sees when they meet you? I wish I could say it was your heart, your inner beauty, your good intentions, your kindness. . . all of that. But it’s not. It’s what you look like. If the person meeting you is a good person, then what you look like shouldn’t matte. It does. Trust me on this one. When you meet me, you see a chubby old lady who is not pretty and has shitty hair. I am NOT downing myself; I’m just being honest.

Why Does It Matter So Much?

I wish I had a good answer for you. The younger the generations get, the more appearance seems to matter. I’m not picking on the Kardashians, honest, but what do they have to offer except for (enhanced) T&A? They put on a good show of being a “normal” family, but they are, in fact, further from that truth than most. So what makes them appealing? LOOKS. Pure and simple. Okay, okay. Add in a VERY smart momager in Kris Jenner. She knew how to market those looks into a gazillion dollar empire. But except for looks, what have any of them done to help mankind? If you know of something, please leave it in comments. I would like to hear it. And I’m not saying you have to do things for mankind either. I’m just saying that there should be something more to people than a face or a massive booty.

Fueled by the Makeup & Fashion Industries

Now it’s not ALL makeup & fashion, but those industries really push this need to be like a Kardashian or a movie star or now like an influencer. Either that or. . . you don’t matter. Women go broke buying makeup and clothing to enhance what they have naturally. And if it’s not much, you’re gonna be buying a LOT of it. Don’t believe me? Go to You Tube and put makeup influencer in the search box. You will get hundreds if not thousands, all teaching you how to sculpt that face into something society approves of. And people are buying the products they push, whether or not they know that the person on screen will make money off of it. It’s sales, folks. Just sales. Consequently, most makeup and clothing companies are booming in an economy that is not too friendly to us everyday people.

So What Do You Do?

I honestly don’t know except find a look YOU like and go with that. Some of us will never be beautiful or have bodies that are the stuff of mens’ dreams. Be the best YOU out there. There are no others just like YOU. Why copy someone else? To be accepted? I’m not so sure how satisfying that is in the end, despite it being the thing to do these days. I’m me. I can’t be a Kardashian or a Taylor Swift no matter how hard I try. So do I let it depress me? I used to. (Yeah, I was just as guilty as everyone else.) But not now. I just do the best I can at being ME. And if I’m judged on that appearance, as I know I am, so be it. I’m done trying to be somebody else.

NOW GO OUT AND BE YOU!!!! FIGHT BACK!!! YOU ARE ENOUGH RIGHT NOW!!!!

Appearance This or That

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Aug 102022
 

One of the reasons I chose Banks Boutique as my clothing company was because they had so many plus sizes. There are a LOT. I often do what I call “doubles,” side-by-side photos to show that these items are available in a wide range of sizes. HOT NEWS 🔥🔥🔥🔥: I have another clothing company that also has beautiful plus sizes, too! But selling isn’t really the point of this blog post or why I do this.

Look at the pic at the bottom of this blog post. Same dress. Left is on a size small; right is on a size 1X. They are both on the appropriate size model to the dress. Which one do you prefer? I’m betting at least 75% of you will say you like the pic of the size small. Why? There are a lot of reasons. Here are just a few.

Conditioning. The advertising industry has done one helluva job in convincing us that smaller is better. Maybe it is. I am NOT part of the fat acceptance movement. I recognize that excess weight exacerbates certain illnesses and causes other problems. I’m not preaching anything like that. But. . . we are conditioned to believe that skinny or at least thin is the way to go. It wasn’t always like this. But we have to deal with the here and now.

Age of Society. The younger our society becomes, research says the preference for thinness increases. Older men like women a bit more zaftig. And I am NOT talking about chubby chasers. But older men seem to like women a bit larger. Younger men like them much thinner. And if they have big boobs on that skinny body, so much the better. HAH! Obviously, my husband is not in the stick skinny camp, but he’s 72.

The Example of Supermodels. I have NOTHING against supermodels. Many of those women are incredibly beautiful. In fact, I’m probably a little bit envious. But unless someone can find me a good deal on a medieval rack at Goodwill, I will never be one. Even when I was smaller, I was still on the short side. And those legs!!!! I’d have to cut off some tall girl’s and run like hell! Suffice it to say that this is not a career path that was EVER open to me. But that’s not really the point. The point is that these beautiful women, who most are naturally tall and thin, are approximately 1-2% of the population (the supermodels and women built like them) and the other 98% of us are attempting to emulate them. Many of us can’t. Oh, we try and try and try. Genetics will cause most of us to fail. It creates disappointment and a forever longing to achieve an unattainable goal. Did you know that the *average* woman in the WORLD is 5’4″ tall, weighs approximately 160 pounds and wears a size 14? Don’t take my (fat) word for it. Look it up if you don’t believe me.

So take another look. Which one do you prefer? It’s okay if you say you prefer the thinner model. You’re allowed to. I don’t prefer either, to be perfectly honest. I think they both look good. It’s taken me a long, long time to say that because, up until recently me, myself and I would ALWAYS pick the thinner model and sneer at the other one with some type of fat insult. I learned that crapola at home, but that’s for another time.